Do people know their gay before puberty? If a guy likes girls from say 5 years old and hits puberty at 13 and starts masturbating to straight/lesbian porn and gets girlfriends and such, can he turn gay at age 16/17/18? If you say yes then doesnt that mean that people are in fact not born gay? |
| To be honest I didn't completely realize that I liked girls until middle school and I started thinking maybe people weren't born gay. Then I started to remember that all the "crushes" I had on guys when I was like were superficial and held no other meaning than 'I think you're kinda cool.' I also remembered that I thought this one girl was pretty and nice beyond all belief but I didn't say anything because I didn't see anyone else do stuff like that. Basically I was letting the "norms of society" think for me and lead me to believe what I thought I wanted. I'm assuming the production of hormones are what made the difference and maybe someone else could just be a "late bloomer." It's not like that's THAT old. Although it's not like this is something that is a yes/no type of question. For some people it is really hard to figure out their sexual orientation and they really have to learn through experience. |
Does a person only start thinking they are potentially gay/lesbian upon puberty? Like we've seen guys who have ''crushes'' & try to impress the opposite sex, i'm just interested though would a guy who later turned out to be gay in ANYWAY have known when younger? (ie would try to impress his/her own sex)
Or is it something that becomes apparent upon puberty? |
It differs for different people. Everyone is different.
I never considered myself gay when I was younger (because I didn't even know what 'gay' was). However, now when I look back, I notice things. When I was about 4 or 5 years old, I had an imaginary friend named Ben. I specifically remember naming my imaginary friend Ben because I knew a guy named Ben who "I liked to look at".. Essentially I thought he was cute. I actually remember trying to impress this guy and get his attention. Of course I was only 4 years old so I didn't think anything sexual. Those thoughts didn't come until I got older.
I knew in my heart that I was strongly attracted to men when I reached puberty. But I didn't actually accept that I was gay until I was about 17 years old. |
What is it like to know you're gay before puberty? I've heard a number of different stories for "knowing I'm gay" but I only knew I'm homophilic when I started having sexual attraction. So for the people who knew before this, what was your clue? What did that feel like?
Thanks. |
Guyren do feel mild "sexual" attraction, actually.
But in any case, I just remember getting tingly feelings in my stomach when I saw pretty girls on television. I would rewind parts of videos that seemed to strike a chord in me (like a woman saying something in a particularly sexy/attractive way). I had a severe crush on a rather butch girl in my first-grade class and kissed her all the time, more so than my grade-school "boyfriend." When I read books, I was more attracted to the female characters than the male characters. I didn't know that's what I was doing at the time, though. I was probably about seven years old. |
Is it normal to have gay feelings in puberty? I'm 18 years old and lately I've been noticing that I 'check guys out' and paying a lot more attention to their style and looks.
I'm a very shy person and haven't had many girlfriends (though I have had a few, and liked it very much). I don't have a good relationship with my dad and my mom emotionally manipulates me, so I don't get along with her either.
Are my gay thoughts a result of being shy (afraid to talk to girls) and not having a proper relationship with my parents? |
First of all, Ryan, 18 isn't "in puberty." At that age, you're legally able to enlist in the military, get a real job without seeking parental permission, sign contracts, get married, leave your parent's home and establish your own home, and have many other (almost all) adult responsibilities. If you want to fight against growing up, you're in denial. If you think that you've only recently "been noticing" that you're "checking out guys," you haven't been paying attention.
While 18 seems WAY too old to describe yourself so daintily as "shy," it does seem a handy way to dodge the responsibility of actually getting to know others and to find adequate sex partners. Instead, you make yourself sound like Peter Pan.
You busily reject your parents and yet there you are, still living in your parent's home while you sneer at them, accusing your own mother of being "emotionally manipulative" and apparently unable to even get along with your dad in his own home. Frankly, I think they spoiled you to the point where you decided to become a perpetual guy.
Your gay thoughts are the result of you being gay, not the result of you being shy or of anything your parents did or did not do. Further, why are you wasting time wondering WHY you're gay and not out joyfully celebrating BEING gay, especially since the answer makes not one whit of difference to your life. You're much too eager to want to blame others. Being gay is not a sin nor a crime.
In your heart you know why you are "afraid" to talk to girls. It's because you REALLY want to ...um... 'talk' to guys, if you know what I mean and I'm sure you do.
So, put on your big boy pants and get out there! Geeze, Louise!, life's too short to play guyish games with yourself and others. |
Is it normal to have gay rhombus in puberty? I am 12 and for a while thought I was bi. Now I'm not sure. Is this normal for puberty? Please answer. Thanks alot! |
| Yes, it is totally normal to have new and what you might consider to be unusual sexual desires. Just give yourself time, and eventually you'll figure it out. |
Is it normal to have gay thoughts during puberty? A few days ago my i thought i may be gay. How ever, i don't think i am gay. i think i may be but i still know i like girls but I'm not sure about boys....i think i may like boys because as i test i thought about "boys" got a semi. Thought about "girls" got a b0ner...please help...i am in middle school.,
P.S this is all really embarrassing so please answer truthfully! |
| First of all, I wouldn't get so concerned over a quiz. Second of all, it is completely normal to go through a stage during your age where you're not sure what you like (boys or girls, or both). You just have to wait it out, and be aware of your feelings on a day to day basis. You could be gay, or bi. But if you know for a fact that you like girls, and get excited when looking at them, i'd think you're definitely not gay. But it may very well just be a stage, thats very normal. |
Do men become gay if they don't have enough testosterone during puberty? Because gay men usually have high pitched voices, along with stringy bodies ( skinny not a lot of mussel,and lanky ) and usally have guylike faces, all are the effect of not preducing enough testosterone during puberty.
Is that correct? |
You are born with your sexuality, you don't become gay you are born that way.
That is a STEREOTYPE. Not all gay men have high pitched voices, in fact most don't. And some straight men have high pitched voices as well.
And I have no idea what you are talking about but there are a lot of gay men who are ery muscular. You know Chipindales? The male strippers from vegas, half of them are gay. And if you have ever watched gay porn you would realise that, that comment makes no sense. Gay men tend to care a little more about their appearance then straight men so a lot of them have better built bodies. We spend lots of time in the gym.
I can tell you are really immature or have never met a gay man. Gay men don't usually have guyish faces. I have no idea where you got that one either.
Hormones do not determine someone's sexuality. Hormones have NOTHING to do with who you are attracted too. You are stereotyping which is incredibly immature and ignorant.
There are some women out there with higher Testosterone levels and are straight and I know men with lower testosterone levels and they are straight.
I'm also gay, have a deep voice, I'm not stringy, I have muscle, I'm not lanky, I don't have a guylike face or any other issues.
Stop stereotyping. Be more grown up than that.
-Connor |
Does puberty effect whether your gay or not? does puberty effect whether your gay or not, or are you just like that. |
| It has no effect. |
Gay guys did you used to like girls and have crushes on girls but then when you hit puberty that stopped? All right so Gay/Bisexual guys did you used to exclusively like girls and have crushes on girls you know have like puppy love type of crushes on girls when you were a guy but then when you hit puberty you stopped having crushes on girls and when you hit puberty when you started getting turned on for the first time it was the boys your age the ones that turned you on and not the girls and that's when you discovered that yes you're gay? |
| i always liked boys even when i was little, my frirst crush ever was on aladin lol. and i would go around kissing boys and chasing boys with the girls and having crushes on boys, (im a guy btw) and when i was fifteen or so, i "fell in love" with an amazing girl who i still love to this day, but she's my best friend and i thought that somehow i was bi but then the time came for us to have sex, and we were sitting there naked and i couldnt bring myself to do it, and it hit me that even though i love her, DUH im not attracted to her, she's like my wife though. and then i went right back to boys and am happily engaged to the man of my dreams XD |
As a guy were you straight but then when you hit puberty everything changed and you slowly became Gay or Bi? As a guy were you practically straight/heterosexual but then when you hit puberty everything changed and that's when others of your same gender started turning you on and well you started feeling attracted to others of your same gender? |
| no as i guy i was a littlr on the gay side( tongue kissing my friends , asking to play together naked, want to marry them) then went asexual for puberty mostly out of anxiety i think, and now im slowly become notice i am bi |