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Anybody Know A Good "Free" No Credit Card Ever Swingers Site? So yea I'm looking to Swing NOT Date and would like to know if anybody knows any 100% Free sites. That means free to contact any other member on the site chat with them,post pics e.t.c...No BS of "Free to sign up" but pay for a dumb premium membership. So no ALT.com or Adult Friend Finder. That means u never have to use a dumb credit card EVER.And ofc sumthin thats adult oriented where nude pics r allowed.
Ok to point out a few things so as not to confuse people or have people trolling and answering the question wrong cuz they misinterpret what my goal is.
1. So I'm not in sum kind of hurry to get laid, I'm not desprate.
2. I would like to experience "Swinging"
3. I am aware that sum of the members on those sites r "Professionals" if u catch my drift.
4. I know that alot of the members r not the "youngest or prettiest" out there and sum r into really weird stuff, but so am I and my "fetishes" r none of ur business.
I would also appreciate that u have sum type of experience with the site. Thank u | try www.swinglifestyle.com it is free to use, you can view profiles and send and receive emails to to others on the site with out paying.
We use this site and have been happy with it. | Was this wrong or not? A big deal or not? Big enough to end the marriage? My husband and I have been separated for a few months. Married for 12 years. I asked him to move out & he did. I have numerous issues with the state of our marriage, all of which he had admitted are valid complaints & agreed we would work on things. We have spent a lot of time together since the separation, willingly & joyfully, as a family with our guyren as well as many nights together alone as a couple. I felt that things were moving along with a few minor problems until I looked at his computer and saw he registered for an adult single/swinger website. I got his user name and password and looked on the account. He had a free account opened about 2 weeks earlier. His profile had no photo and generic fill in the blank answers for his description. He said he was looking for someone to have erotic chats with. I have run out of room...please give me a second to continue typing on the next page...please don't answer yet!! | I had a 20 year monogamous relationship and a 7 year open relationship. The only way both of them worked was for honesty to be at the forefront. Deception is the soul killer.
There is an amazing book written by Dossie Easton called The Ethical Slut which gives you amazing guidelines for having an open relationship.
the following is an excerpt which I got from www.sexuality.org
How to f*** up
The preceding list of answers to questions about polyamory is not a guide to how to have a working polyamorous relationship, although we have strong anecdotal evidence that the tools mentioned are useful in all sorts of relationships, mono and poly. We do, however, have the following guide of carefully tested methods for making mistakes in
polyamorous relationships. With proper application and ingenuity, these methods may impair or destroy monogamous relationships as well; they're truly multipurpose tools. We post this listing for your consideration; no liability expressed or implied.
1. Lie. This is basic and effective. To maximize bad results, lie about something important to the other person(s) and arrange to be caught in the lie in such a way as to produce maximum shock. Additional stress points awarded for keeping the lie going for a while before discovery, which increases the disorientation and sense of betrayal in the deceived person(s). Lying about sex gets double points. Lying about being married gets triple f***-up points. Creative lies of omission (i.e. "not telling") with fancy
rationalizations and condescension get gold stars.
2. Avoid self-knowledge. This is more elegant than strategy 1, as it combines a bold sweep of denial with sorties of distraction aimed at oneself. This tactic is most effective when combined with tactics 3 and 4. Self-destructive or addictive behaviour has also been found very effective in avoiding self-knowledge by our researchers. When
combined with an endearing attitude of helplessness, this strategy has been proven efficacious in attracting "rescuers" or "white knights" on whom one can then practice strategies 4 and 3, in that order.
3. Blame the other person(s). If anything went wrong, hey, it must be their fault, right? This eliminates the need for messy things like communication and negotiation, which can be embarrassing, particularly if one is using strategy 2.
4. Disclaim responsibility. This is a little more complex than
strategy 3, and often includes what is referred to as "codependency". The classic way to play this strategy is to cater to the partner(s) involved while repressing one's own desires and questions. This allows a good head of resentment to build up, and one can justify anger by saying one has done so *much* for one's partner(s) and gets
no thanks, etc. In its most refined state, this strategy makes the other person(s) responsible for setting the direction, pace and content of the relationship, for which one can them blame them if one's own expectations or needs are not met. Using strategy 2 to avoid knowledge of these expectations and needs gets double points.
5. Push. This is an art, albeit a crude one. When augmented with strategy 6, pushing can achieve spectacular negative results in even a short time. Remember, when pushing, only *your* satisfaction counts! It's a dog eat dog world, and you're a pit bull. Emotional and mental bullying can be as satisfying as old-fashioned physical coercion, and not nearly as easily prosecutable.
6. Play on insecurity. This is an old favorite. Using sexual
insecurity as a weapon and combining this with strategy 5 is a four-star winner. Attempting to control one's partner(s) by
manipulating them through their insecurities is a sure-fire f***-up tactic. It's so much more delicate than simply beating them up, too, though the resultant emotional damage can be remarkably similar.
7. Avoid intimacy. This may seem paradoxical; after all, we're
talking about getting up-close and personal with as many hot bi babes -- er, ahem -- we're discussing achieving satisfyingly close relationships with a number of people, right? The trick of avoiding intimacy can be performed in several ways, but the easiest is to confuse intimacy with "rubbing slippery bits together". Substitute the words "sex" and "love" for each other often in conversations. Repeat the mantra, "If you loved me, you'd know what I want." Practice strategy 8 assiduously, supplementing it with strategy 2. According to the needs of the moment, figure out whether action or words are more likely to be ambiguous or misconstrued, and go with
what gives you the most plausible deniability later. Some
exceptionally talented individuals manage to give the impression of being intimate while successfully remaining stone-cold. Study sales techniques for pointers. People with good "lines" fall into this category, especially if the lines include explanations of how they truly *value* the other person.
8. Don't talk. Talking has been known to lead to communication if practiced carelessly. Communication will seriously impair your f***-up progress, and in certain cases will halt or reverse it entirely. If you *must* talk, use cliches and quotations from popular songs as much as possible, or fall back on strategy number 1.
If all else fails, make a safer-sex agreement with your partner(s) and then break it, contracting a communicable disease about which you do not then tell them. Double points for avoiding all discussion or negotiation of sexual matters entirely so that the "agreement" is wishful thinking and completely deniable. For a coup de grace, add strategy 6 and tell them it wouldn't have happened if they had been
satisfying you like they were supposed to.
9. For the ultimate metaf***-up, remain technically faithful to your partner while breaking the spirit of whatever agreement you have whenever possible, keeping this knowledge bottled up to ensure maximum fear, shame and resentment. Some people win the grand prize with the figleaf-and-stinging-nettle cluster for self-inflicted suffering and wasted potential by managing to keep this strategy up until death do them part, concealing from their spouse the fact that they have been
shamming happiness all these years. |
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